Post by kensei on Jun 10, 2011 12:18:30 GMT
So, the other night I am at the club organizing a seminar that was moved to the our club for one night because of scheduling problems. I had little kids from our club running up to me, I had parents that I was trying to organize for the next two night, I had seniors...for some reason...acting like it was their first seminar and no crowd control, the place was PACKED and I was also trying to deal with Gi issues and the like....trying to get a few people set up with new gis the day of seminar = stupid.
So this father comes up to me, he is like 6'5"...and me being 5'5" he towered over me, and when I say he came up to me, he almost bumped my chest he was so close.
Back ground...his son is a little bugger, always interupting class, always butting in...and so it begins.....The week before his mother was trying to talk to us and this kid was acting like a little jerk. He was interupting mom and making our conversation difficult. So, I leaned over and told the kid to go warm up, take out his earing and join the other kids before class....He did not...in fact he started acting out even more! so, I leaned forwards again and told him that he would have to scoot along or I would rip his nose off...now when I said it I smiled and made a fake move for his nose and he smiled and left...the mom smiled and I thought nothing of it.
So, back to Dad, he gets in my face and says "So, last week you told my kid you were going to rip his nose off!"
Not only did I not back away, but I told him why I had said that and this kid...The dad being about 26...says..."Yah, well he took it personally"......
So, I said to the father that it was in jest and I would appologize to the kid if he appologized for his behavior that led to the comment...the father...already close, tried to take a step forwards like he was going to fight me in the middle of a gym filled with about 150 people, and the Club secretary watching along with half a dozen black belts.
Long story short I did not move and he bumped into me and off of me, I pushed him back and bit and said "man its packed in here eh" and looked him right in the eyes and basically showed him he was going to be in for it if he did that again. and even moved forwards a bit myself.
End result I did bring the kid aside, with out the father their, but infront of a few people in the office area and told him that because of his behavior I said something that I was joking about, if he took it personal It was not the intent and asked him to appologize to me and his mother for acting that way, he said sorry to me in a shy half hearted effort to get the hell out of their, shook my hand and went back to class.
After thinking about it, and having a bit of time, I am going to ask the family to leave the club. The Grand mother and this kid train with us and the behavior of the father is over the top. I would have felt bad choking the guy out infront of all those people or smacking him around so its just not worth it. They get a reduced rate thru the community club as it is and we just do not need that kind of crap.
Anyways, figured I would tell you all how my night went!
So this father comes up to me, he is like 6'5"...and me being 5'5" he towered over me, and when I say he came up to me, he almost bumped my chest he was so close.
Back ground...his son is a little bugger, always interupting class, always butting in...and so it begins.....The week before his mother was trying to talk to us and this kid was acting like a little jerk. He was interupting mom and making our conversation difficult. So, I leaned over and told the kid to go warm up, take out his earing and join the other kids before class....He did not...in fact he started acting out even more! so, I leaned forwards again and told him that he would have to scoot along or I would rip his nose off...now when I said it I smiled and made a fake move for his nose and he smiled and left...the mom smiled and I thought nothing of it.
So, back to Dad, he gets in my face and says "So, last week you told my kid you were going to rip his nose off!"
Not only did I not back away, but I told him why I had said that and this kid...The dad being about 26...says..."Yah, well he took it personally"......
So, I said to the father that it was in jest and I would appologize to the kid if he appologized for his behavior that led to the comment...the father...already close, tried to take a step forwards like he was going to fight me in the middle of a gym filled with about 150 people, and the Club secretary watching along with half a dozen black belts.
Long story short I did not move and he bumped into me and off of me, I pushed him back and bit and said "man its packed in here eh" and looked him right in the eyes and basically showed him he was going to be in for it if he did that again. and even moved forwards a bit myself.
End result I did bring the kid aside, with out the father their, but infront of a few people in the office area and told him that because of his behavior I said something that I was joking about, if he took it personal It was not the intent and asked him to appologize to me and his mother for acting that way, he said sorry to me in a shy half hearted effort to get the hell out of their, shook my hand and went back to class.
After thinking about it, and having a bit of time, I am going to ask the family to leave the club. The Grand mother and this kid train with us and the behavior of the father is over the top. I would have felt bad choking the guy out infront of all those people or smacking him around so its just not worth it. They get a reduced rate thru the community club as it is and we just do not need that kind of crap.
Anyways, figured I would tell you all how my night went!